How should one handle a competitive Best Friend?

[Kaitou1412]

As the title states xD

How do you think one should handle a best friend who is suddenly always comparing, trying to become better than and endlessly undermining you?

[Noir]

You must have some best friend there. :\ Usually, I'd just shut him up by making him speechless by impressing him. :3

I'm not much of help since I don't have that kind of best friend. :>

[Kaitou1412]

Yes, but impressing the friend is going to take a lot of effort.. :"(

Wouldn't that mean one would have to compete back?

(and thanks for the reply! : D)

[Noir]

Yes, but impressing the friend is going to take a lot of effort.. :"(

Wouldn't that mean one would have to compete back?

(and thanks for the reply! : D)

Oh, sorry for the wrong suggestion. I kind of misunderstood.

I'll let him "not compete with me anymore" by letting him win (on something) which will convince him that he is better than you. That should shut him up and let him be your ordinary best friend. :3

But I'd say that's a good thing, btw. Wouldn't want to lose a competitive best friend, ya' know. Too bad I don't have those kinds of best friends. :<

[Kaitou1412]

Hahaha yea that's an idea! xD

Thanks! : )

[blaxicanlatino]

Its just got into a argument with my best friend about something like this too! But hes been attempting to undermine me as far back as i can remember. Like when something good happens to me or simply I accomplished something, he has to say something negative about it. For instance i got a 11,000$ grant and he replies yea but a real man gets a job and works for his money. Im like 0_o lol. Or if a girl confesses her interest in me or vise versa then automatically, he says something negative about her (honestly, not many girls pay much attention to him but i never tell him that XD lol). Or he constantly compares my family to his (his family his moderately wealthy and mine is middle class) so he cunningly undermines my family in ways i cant even explain lol hes so tactfull in doing so XD or if i say "i got a new job" then he might reply something like " yea but thats a loser job" lol. you know, it came down to a point where i asked myself...why is he my BEST friend? or ever a friend for that matter. Then i realized you know what...i feel sorry for him!! 16 yrs and a realized he simply jealous with me! for some reasons he considers me a threat I guess. I have plenty of real friends who dont attempt to compete or undermine me.

what i did is simply told him straight. I defined what a friend was let alone a best friend and told him i should be irritated everytime we hang out. I shouldnt be feeling down whenever we hang out. He got the message lol i put up with it for 16 yrs!!! ive know him and been good friends with him since i was 3.

[Scar Akai]

Actually, I have about 6 best friends who are competing with me. So, we still play together but during work time, we are challenging each other. We will count the wins of everyone and the loser of the month will buy drinks for us.(cheap ones)

[detective-db]

I doesn't really mind me at all...

but it's quite annoying to me but i'll he/she will someday stop

[Kaitou Kid Legendary Thief]

Haha that is why I can't understand how guys get along with their best friends. Insults don't seem to matter much. If it is girls, we'll most likely get into an argument already lol!!!

[A L]

Usually you can just best them and smile when they insult you like that. Or look like a dolt

[Aeyra]

Me and my friends are always competing. :V Because we all want to be valedictorian! >:3 We're pretty good about it though- there's no fighting. I just let it go most of the time. I'll just show them up later and continue the cycle of who's on top. XD We're usually pretty sympathetic to each other's losses. (AKA I got a 97... TT-TT... We spend forever cheering each other up. :V The reason why 97 is bad is because it's an A. We all have straight A+s. :V)

[Miss Smiles]

Wow, Aeyra, I wish I can meet another version of you in my time I can be motivated in studies.

[tengaku squared]

There is a certain point of competitiveness where you should seriously question your friendship.

[Anti-APTX4869]

I'm actually competitive myself... though I'm not very aware of it.

Of course some of you already know Cure-kun and I are competitive... now he's way ahead lol.

I guess I like competitiveness. I think it's best to be competitive with others to get to know them better since you'll know what they know better and stuff.

I usually emphasize their goods while criticizing what they lack of and try to fix it so that they won't really feel that someone is superior over someone.

[Valkyrie]

Competiting is healthy but not too much. I would prefer if my friends and I leave out the topic of grades from our coversations but of course, this is not possible.

When there is too much competitiveness, till the point where your best friends is seriously dampening your spirits by saying that they would beat you no matter what and showing jealousy and contempt, it is time to face your 'friend'. Maybe, they have forgotten what it means to be a friend.