Depression Club

[Metantei Kiddo 147]

Typically I'd say making connections is better than building walls, but just ignore them. I know I'm completely going off what my counselors have been telling me to do, but really, don't even bother with these people. They sound terrible.

Hit list? xD

Meh... If you do something, it's not going to be 'always'.

@Hikari: One of the best things about this club is that it's over the Internet, so everyone is unbiased. Talk to someone (or to everyone) if you want.

Yeah?

Haha. Yup. Plus, I think there's no time wasted, really.

[Arima 58]

Typically I'd say making connections is better than building walls, but just ignore them. I know I'm completely going off what my counselors have been telling me to do, but really, don't even bother with these people. They sound terrible.Hit list? xD

Meh... If you do something, it's not going to be 'always'.

@Hikari: One of the best things about this club is that it's over the Internet, so everyone is unbiased. Talk to someone (or to everyone) if you want.

The last time I've tried to talk with much people ... Wasn't good.

[Kirsch 95]

The last time I've tried to talk with much people ... Wasn't good.

What happened?

[Arima 58]

What happened?

.... Had many people who just ignored me or meet people which I didn't wanted to talk with.

[Kirsch 95]

.... Had many people who just ignored me or meet people which I didn't wanted to talk with.

Ah... There are always going to be those kind of people in the world. I shouldn't be talking, as I'm not exactly a column of support either...

[Arima 58]

Ah... There are always going to be those kind of people in the world. I shouldn't be talking, as I'm not exactly a column of support either...

hahaha see?

But you're ... Good friend?

[Kirsch 95]

hahaha see?

But you're ... Good friend?

I'm a good friend on a daily basis (I hope), but when things start getting serious... I tend to think people are overly dramatic, so in the end, the person who asks for help gets insulted by what I said.

[Arima 58]

I'm a good friend on a daily basis (I hope), but when things start getting serious... I tend to think people are overly dramatic, so in the end, the person who asks for help gets insulted by what I said.

I see ...

I don't know what kind of friend I am.

[Kirsch 95]

I see ...

I don't know what kind of friend I am.

Let's go with good

[Arima 58]

Let's go with good

Yes I like to help people...

[Kirsch 95]

Yes I like to help people...

That's usually all that's required in being a good friend, so you pass

[Arima 58]

That's usually all that's required in being a good friend, so you pass

Lol thanks

But I have much friends who don't like to help ....

[Metantei Kiddo 147]

Yes I like to help people...

It's in my blood to help people in need. Honestly, I'm pretty overempathic and it gets me into trouble sometimes

[Akazora 292]

Akazora #2

Hoho, I like where this is going.  My influence is rubbing off on other members!

 

Don't want to detract too much from the convo though, so carry on.

[Metantei Kiddo 147]

Hoho, I like where this is going.  My influence is rubbing off on other members!

 

Don't want to detract too much from the convo though, so carry on.

You are influential

[IdentityUnknown 216]

Depression...

 

Depression really sucks. It's not a one day thing or a one week thing (at least, clinical depression isn't). Being depressed for a day or two (as long as you don't do anything rash) isn't out of the ordinary or too terrible. It's bad when it goes on for weeks and weeks and months and months. It's a lot of emptiness. I suppose it's different for everyone. Some people who go around talking about how much life sucks aren't really depressed, they just like to complain. Some people who smile and laugh and greet you cheerfully are depressed. It's really hard to tell. Someone can socialize and talk with friends and go home and give their parents a hug and then retreat to their room, lay down, and burst into tears. And you really don't need a reason to. Often depression is brought on by a particular reason, but as it progresses, I don't think you need a reason at all to continue.

 

The reason why people cut, in my mind, is because at least that's a break from the emptiness. At least you feel something. Even if it's pain. Maybe that's why it's addicting to some.

 

Not sure why I felt like writing this out but...depression isn't simple. It's so often romanticized in our culture and it shouldn't be. It's terrible. It ruins people's lives. Some people are even against people self-diagnosing because they feel like people treat it too lightly. There is a certain thing in our culture about how depressed people write the best or have the greatest stories to tell or how they need to be saved, but no. Depression's really not that simple. Not at all. And you really can't 'save' a depressed person. You can help them, certainly, but you can't save them. They have to save themselves. It's like how you can't force someone to live. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink, et cetera et cetera.

 

So yeah. If you're depressed...find someone you trust. If it lasts for a while, go see a therapist. Listen to music that drowns out your thoughts and breathe. Depression's not simple or easy or romantic. But you can get through it.

 

And if you're the friend of someone with depression...hug them. Listen to them. Don't say much. Really. As long as they can tell you're listening, you shouldn't have to. Just be there. And if you're genuinely scared they'll hurt themselves, call an adult or a helpline.

[Metantei Kiddo 147]

Depression...

 

Depression really sucks. It's not a one day thing or a one week thing (at least, clinical depression isn't). Being depressed for a day or two (as long as you don't do anything rash) isn't out of the ordinary or too terrible. It's bad when it goes on for weeks and weeks and months and months. It's a lot of emptiness. I suppose it's different for everyone. Some people who go around talking about how much life sucks aren't really depressed, they just like to complain. Some people who smile and laugh and greet you cheerfully are depressed. It's really hard to tell. Someone can socialize and talk with friends and go home and give their parents a hug and then retreat to their room, lay down, and burst into tears. And you really don't need a reason to. Often depression is brought on by a particular reason, but as it progresses, I don't think you need a reason at all to continue.

 

The reason why people cut, in my mind, is because at least that's a break from the emptiness. At least you feel something. Even if it's pain. Maybe that's why it's addicting to some.

 

Not sure why I felt like writing this out but...depression isn't simple. It's so often romanticized in our culture and it shouldn't be. It's terrible. It ruins people's lives. Some people are even against people self-diagnosing because they feel like people treat it too lightly. There is a certain thing in our culture about how depressed people write the best or have the greatest stories to tell or how they need to be saved, but no. Depression's really not that simple. Not at all. And you really can't 'save' a depressed person. You can help them, certainly, but you can't save them. They have to save themselves. It's like how you can't force someone to live. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink, et cetera et cetera.

 

So yeah. If you're depressed...find someone you trust. If it lasts for a while, go see a therapist. Listen to music that drowns out your thoughts and breathe. Depression's not simple or easy or romantic. But you can get through it.

 

And if you're the friend of someone with depression...hug them. Listen to them. Don't say much. Really. As long as they can tell you're listening, you shouldn't have to. Just be there. And if you're genuinely scared they'll hurt themselves, call an adult or a helpline.

True Stuff.

Anyway, there's a point in depression (if it really continues for long time) where you can't really feel anything more. (I mean your emotions are just gone)

[IdentityUnknown 216]

It's true, after a while you do feel numb. You can smile and laugh but it feels very fleeting. You're not even particularly sad. You'd think someone who goes home and cries would be, but it's not even sadness. It's just very very empty.

 

I feel like something in your life has to change for you to get out of that rut. Either by finding someone to confide in or leaving the situation or finding somewhere happier. I feel like if you just stay still, nothing much happens. But that's just my opinion.

[Metantei Kiddo 147]

It's true, after a while you do feel numb. You can smile and laugh but it feels very fleeting. You're not even particularly sad. You'd think someone who goes home and cries would be, but it's not even sadness. It's just very very empty.

 

I feel like something in your life has to change for you to get out of that rut. Either by finding someone to confide in or leaving the situation or finding somewhere happier. I feel like if you just stay still, nothing much happens. But that's just my opinion.

Emotional numbness is one of the hardest thing to cope up with.

 

Anyway, I feel like you are going through something. I hope you reach the end of it soon.

 

I believe that there's always a light at the end of the tunnel.

[IdentityUnknown 216]

Emotional numbness is one of the hardest thing to cope up with.

 

Anyway, I feel like you are going through something. I hope you reach the end of it soon.

 

I believe that there's always a light at the end of the tunnel.

Thanks, but as for anything related to depression, I've already reached the end of that tunnel. Just recalling how I felt about it two or three years ago. Stuff happening now is unrelated.

[Metantei Kiddo 147]

Thanks, but as for anything related to depression, I've already reached the end of that tunnel. Just recalling how I felt about it two or three years ago. Stuff happening now is unrelated.

Oh good then. Sharing them might help out those people who are suffering depression right now. They might get motivated.

[Arima 58]

IU: before When I was depressed. People try to makes me smile and I keep like "Why those kids are laughing about?" Sometimes don't make sense to laugh when you're really depressed. Maybe that situation made that person change or ... Regret.

Sometimes your depression is so strong that you do not feel hungry, it seems that you are nourished by your deep sadness